MOSAIC MOMENTS

Sometimes there are some advantages to having A.D.D. I tend to hop from one place to another when I am looking for something online and just like when you go to the store for one thing and come out with a special treasure you never knew even existed, most of the time when I am surfing on the web, I often find a special treasure here and there that I never knew was even there!

Just recently, I happened upon such a treasure and if you are a parent of a child with Down syndrome or Autism or any learning disability or developmental delay, I think you will agree that this is a fantastic find! Over the weekend, I had the opportunity to talk on the phone to the founder of Get IEP Help, Yael Cohen, and we had a great conversation about all that Yael does to help parents understand the whole IEP process.

Yael says,  “When things just aren’t going so well with your child at school, you want to know why, what to do, and how to get it. I have over 30 years experience doing just that. Along with helping parents successfully advocate for their children’s educational needs, I also directly help children with learning challenges to read, spell, and learn other academic skills and strategies. I have a B.A. in Speech Pathology and an M.A. in Special Education, with an extensive background in reading, math, and writing instruction. Parents like you seek me out for my expertise, but also because I can help you not only figure out what will work for your child, but where you find the local resources. I am a true believer that your child deserves a great education. With the right kind of instruction, every child can learn - yours included. In my spare time, I enjoy the gorgeous Colorado mountains. I have adult twin children, who finally(!) sleep through the night, and I live in Boulder, Colorado. I look forward to assisting you and your child.”

She has a great deal of information available at your fingertips on her website  and she offers FREE TELESEMINARS ,(next one this Tuesday!) a FREE PHONE CONSULTATION, several books and products to help you with IEP’s and help you with your child’s learning problems,  and if you need a little extra help, Yael will help you with that Second Opinion . As a professional she can help you with your IEP and take some of the anxiety and tears away!

Consider this….

Does your meeting seem like Debra’s in Florida?

“I sat in that IEP meeting with my heart throbbing.  There were at least a dozen people, most of whom I had never met, sitting on the other side of the table, telling me about my child’s numbers.  They kept smiling at me while they spoke ― mostly in what sounded like Greek.

“They gave me lots of papers and told me I should sign.  Although they said I’m their partner, I seemed to be the only one who didn’t speak Greek or understand what the numbers meant.   I was still trying to grasp what they said about something being wrong with my child.  They asked me questions, but didn’t ask more about my suggestions or write down what I said.  I thought I knew my child, but suddenly, at that meeting, I felt stupid and left out.”

Or , does your IEP meeting seem more like Susan’s, in Colorado?

Susan’s son, Doug, was so learning disabled, that in the spring of his first grade year, he could not read anything, not even his name!  He cried in class when the teacher said, “You don’t really need my help!

You can do it if you try.

“Nightly, Doug confided to his mom, Susan, that he was clearly the stupidest kid in 1st grade.  Finally, the school agreed to test Doug. Susan was both anxious and excited on the way to the first IEP meeting. She thought that for sure the school would figure out what Doug’ problems were and how to solve them.

“Susan was in shock as the meeting unfolded.  The school team used gigantic words that she didn’t understand and kept spewing out numbers that made little sense.  They blamed her for the fact that Doug couldn’t read and even suggested a change in visitation between her and Doug’s dad.  In her gut, little that they said felt right to her. 

“Over and over, the staff kept asking Susan to trust them and to sign the forms. But when she asked what they would be doing to help Doug, the answers were again full of foreign-sounding words and numbers. She refused to sign.  Instead, Susan took the paperwork home and tried to do some quick research on the internet, but there was just too much she didn’t understand.  In tears, she called an old friend of hers who had help from an advocate for her child.”

Here’s what Susan said afterwards…

“It was just what I needed.  Yael, the advocate my friend recommended, explained everything to me in plain English, showed me what the testing meant, and analyzed the IEP (Individual Education Plan) document for me, letting me know which parts made sense and which parts did not.  She asked me questions and offered solutions.

She gave me a plan to follow for the next meeting and then convinced the school to use a research-based reading program for Doug.  She helped us to find a dyslexia specialist to help him outside of school.  She is a walking encyclopedia, who gave us so many resources!

Over time, Yael has taught us how to advocate effectively for our child.  No longer do I feel stupid in the meetings about my son.  And on top of that, my son now is a avid reader!  I’m really excited she’s offering these online conferences for parents, because all parents of kids with special needs to know the secrets of how to get through!

You Don’t Want To Miss This Online Conference: How To Sign Up

Go Now To www.GetIEPHelp.com/spedteleseminars.html and Register for Free Online Seminars for Parents of Kids With Learning Challenges.

This week’s online/phone seminar on Tuesday is on How To Break Down Academic (and

Household) Tasks So That Your Child Can Learn How To Do Them.  To sign up for this and other Get IEP Help free online parent seminars, go to:  www.GetIEPHelp.com/spedteleseminars.html

When you get the conference info, you’ll also get a link to the last online conference Yael did, which is free online for just a few more days.  You’ll also have an opportunity to ask a question for this conference.

What Else You Can Discover:

You might want to check out Yael’s other services while you’re on www.GetIEPHelp.com  –  She offers a whole “Get IEP Help System” which helps you do it yourself, 2nd Opinions on your upcoming or last IEP,

and even a super online reading program for beginning or struggling readers.

Folks, it doesn’t have to be that bad – check it out today!

 Please check out Yael’s website by clicking here.

Two Down and One To Go! A few weeks ago I posted the main conference schedule for our Down Syndrome Research & Awareness Conference. If you missed that, you can view it by clicking here .

I am happy to report that we now have our Kid Konference schedule complete and published on our site for everyone to view. This is for children ages 2-12 divided into 3 age groups. (Down syndrome, mosaic Down syndrome and sibs included)

Many families have expressed their concern  about who is watching their children. I know that it is difficult to leave your child with a complete stranger for the day, even if it is just across the hallway from where you will be!

The children will be supervised by Genetic Counseling Students, OT Students, ST Students, PT Students, Special Education Teachers and Student Teachers and Medical and Nursing Students.  This is through our special Student program that we run each conference to teach these students what it is really like to have Ds or mDs and they always have a great experience and lasting memories of our conference! Students have always expressed that what they learned by this hands-on experience was nothing compared to what they were learning in school and they also have the opportunity to sit in on workshops of their choice to further their profession. We preform a background check on each student before they are allowed with the children and there is never just one adult alone with the children.

If you are a student and are interested in this program, just contact me and I will be happy to help you!

Now… for the Kid Konference Schedule just click here. 

I should have the Youth Conference Schedule up by next week!

If you have not yet registered you are really running out of time!!!!

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You can click below to register!

If you need financial assistance to attend this conference please click here for more information.

This conference is going to be awesome! I hope to see all of you in Cincinnati Ohio in July!

In 2007, International Mosaic Down Syndrome Association was approached by the writer/producer of the movie Mr. Blue Sky. Mr. Blue Sky is a wonderful movie about three children (2 girls and 1 boy) who grow up together and face the obstacles that most children grow up with. One of the girls in this movie has Down syndrome.

In the first of the movie, the boy’s mother kills herself. However we don’t really know why until the end of the movie. Because of this, the boy’s father (played by Home Improvement/Family Feud- Richard Karn) becomes an alcoholic.

As they grow up, the boy and the girl (without Ds) (played by Mary Kate Schellhardt) start dating but they really have too many differences to make it together. Then, the boy (played by the late Chaney Kley) winds up falling in love with the girl with Ds (played by Ashley Wolfe) and despite a lot of contriversy they wind up getting married.

IMDSA has been a major supporter of this movie from the beginning of its release. Although many feel as though this is unrealistic, we at IMDSA know that it is very possible for individuals with Down syndrome to marry individuals without Down syndrome because it happens within our community of mosaic Down syndrome quite often. (just ask Casey and Jennifer ) 

You can purchase this DVD and see trailers of the movie by clicking here.

So….. our BIG NEWS  for the day.

I just got a message from Tom Lee-the writer/producer of Mr. Blue Sky

Kareem Dale, the Special Assistant to US President Obama for Disability Policy will be traveling to Serbia on June 10th. The living conditions for people with Down syndrome in Serbia is horrible with the life expectancy of these individuals only reaching 10 years old. It is because of the attitudes of those with disabilities that these individuals are placed in institutions with deplorable conditions and left to die.

It is Mr. Dale’s hope that by showing this movie to the government officials in Serbia, perspectives will change. They will see that individuals with Down syndrome are just like everyone else. They can grow up to be wonderful members of the society and add great value to their communities.

Our movie is truly making the difference that it was created for! To show everyone that people with Down syndrome have the same hopes, the same dreams, the same ambitions and with acceptance, they can reach those dreams and goals! It is just a matter of letting them do what everyone else does and not holding them back from all the can accomplish!

This is a huge step in the right direction and I pray that the government of Serbia can change their perspectives, even just a little, and realize that people with Down syndrome are PEOPLE!

Yesterday , I described just a little of what it was like the day before and days-years after I had my son, Tim.  This morning when he awoke, I sang Happy Birthday to him. Tim, being the literal man that he is, told me it wasn’t his birthday till 3:45 pm. (the time he was born) Unfortunately, I was not home at 3:45 because I had to go to the store to buy Tim’s favorite dinner. Chili Enchiladas and Cheese Cake for desert. (yeah… it sounds gross to me too!)

So when Garrett and I arrived home we loudly sang Happy Birthday and it was official! My baby boy is 23 years old!

Twenty-three years can go by very quickly. It seems like yesterday that I was outside in the front lawn encouraging him to take his first steps, to say his first sentence, or when his older brother Arron, taught him to ride a bike. It doesn’t even seem that long ago when he graduated high school! And as I look back on the last twenty-three years, I see not only changes in Tim, but also changes in me.

Sure, I have a few more gray hairs than I care to share. Most definitely, my jeans size is no where near what it was back then. And the energy I had to chase around a hyper-active two-year-old is long gone! But there are other changes in me that are not as physically visible as the others.

Back when Tim was first diagnosed with mosaic Down syndrome, I felt very lost and extremely alone. I did not have a clue what mosaic Down syndrome was and I wanted more than anything to have something concrete that I could hold on to. Something that would tell me what this meant, what to expect, what to be worried about, what not to be worried about. I was so frustrated when there was no information out there. Yes, there was plenty of information on Down syndrome. And I tried to use that information to compare notes. But none of it really fell in line with what was happening with Tim.  He was either meeting his milestones way before what the books were saying or way after. He wasn’t having trouble in some areas that the books said he should have trouble in. And when I tried to attend a Ds meeting, I was shunned by the other parents. They made it clear that I did not belong.

So, I just raised him the best I could with the zero information I had. I didn’t know what to expect, so when something came up I dealt with it. Which really is not a bad way to live. If you worry about the unknown that may never happen, you will miss out on all the great things that are happening now!

However, as a parent, I know how important it is to have something in your hands that you can read and know that everything is going to be alright.

Over these past 10 years, I have gained a tremendous amount of knowledge on mosaic Down syndrome. I have spoken with countless doctors, researchers and the real “experts”-parents and individuals with mosaic Down syndrome. I have asked the hard questions and insisted upon answers that I could easily understand.

Over these years, it has always been my goal to make sure that no parent ever feels alone, as I did, in raising their child with MDS. We at IMDSA have accomplished that goal! Every family knows they are part of a much larger family. When one family is sad, we are all sad. When one family is happy, we are all happy! But, there is still so much that families need to better understand mosaic Down syndrome. They need the concrete information. They need something to hold on to-to open up and refer to when they have a problem or a question. They need information and they need more than just a blog or a research paper. Families need to know what mosaic Down syndrome is, what it means, what to expect, and what they can do to help their child become the best person possible!

They need what I so desperately wished for 21 years ago when I received the diagnosis for Tim.

I know this is “Taboo” for writers to do this. But, I am doing it out of my faith in God. Because I know that He has lead me over the years to do this and with His help I can accomplish it! So, although authors are not supposed to announce things such as these I am going out on a limb here and hope I don’t hang myself completely!

I am in the process of writing a book about mosaic Down syndrome.  I am half-way finished now and after the conference I will devote the majority of my time to this book. I will still blog every now and then, so please stay with me and if you are subscribed please don’t leave, so when I do write, you wont miss anything.

I want to thank my loyal readers here for all your questions this past year. You have helped me grow and helped me learn even more. I am confident that with God’s help, I will be able to bring you the information that you need to help someone with mosaic Down syndrome. This person may be your child, your patient or client, or yourself. I will update you as I can and of course continue writing more about our upcoming conference in Cincinnati! (I hope to have schedules ready for the Teen and Adult Conference and Kid Konference by next week!

23 years ago today I was lying on a narrow hospital bed waiting for my baby’s lungs to develop before delivery for the next day. The next day, was D-Day. This day would mark 32 weeks in my pregnancy. Throughout my pregnancy I had Placenta Previa-basically this means that my placenta was falling out. So, I was put on bed rest and when I continued to have trouble I was admitted indefinitely into the hospital and had been there for a month before my water broke-which marked my indefinite D-Day.

I was young-only 20 yrs old. It never occurred to me that babies died. It never occurred to me that having a premature baby was a dangerous thing. It never occurred to me that at 20 years old, I would come face to face with death-not just for my baby, but also for myself. And, it never occurred to me that my baby would be born with anything out of the ordinary.

Oh sure, I knew these things happened….to other people. 

So, 23 years ago today I lain on this hospital bed in a “semi-private” labor room in which I had various “room mates” for my three-day stay. I watched them come and go and it never occurred to me that within the next 24 hours my life would change forever. 

On May 19, 1986 I had a beautiful baby boy. I wasn’t able to see him till the day after he was born because I was too weak and far to sick from the loss of blood since I had refused a transfusion because of the high risk of AIDS in transfusions back then. 

Having a baby changes your life. This one definitely changed mine. I could say it was because I was near death. Or even because he was too.  But that is just where the story begins. It wasn’t life-altering at that moment. Probably because I was far too young to realize the true danger that we were both in. Even when my doctor came in to my room with tears in his eyes as he explained that I was dying and there was nothing more that he could do, it never occurred to me that I would actually die. And thankfully, only by God’s grace, I didn’t die. And neither did my baby.

The beginning of my life-altering moment came 2 years later with a blood test that revealed that my beautiful baby boy had a few extra chromosomes. The moment when they told me that he had mosaic Down syndrome and there was nothing in the literature; no book, no pamplet, not even a flyer, that could tell me what to expect with this diagnosis, my life changed. 

Many would think that my life changed for the worse. After all, I had no information, I had no one to talk to and compare notes, I had no support. But I had my “Mommy Instincts”. And as the years went by, I realized that raising a child with mosaic Down syndrome was no different than raising any other child really. Sure, we had to make up some rules as we went along! Definitely, I had a few Pity Parties throughout the years. But the thing I learned the most is, having a child with extra chromosomes is no different than having any other child. And I have others to compare it to! 

23 years ago tomorrow, my tiny 4 lb 4 oz baby boy was born via Emergency C-section. He had his Mommy’s dark brown eyes and was so tiny that his 6 inch high Teddy Bear was more like a Grizzly to his small frame. He loved to snuggle up to me and fall asleep while I rocked him gently in the squeaky old  wooden rocker in the “growers room” at NICU. I loved the way he would yawn and crinkle up his face like a miniature wrinkled old man. I loved the way he smelled when I held him and when I had to leave him I would smell my shirt for the rest of the day-just to try to stay close.

Now, 23 yrs later, that tiny baby is a grown man who takes care of his mom. He is always sensitive to my needs and jokes that he is amazed that I lived through his hyper-active years. He says that he is glad that he has mosaic Down syndrome because without it, he wouldn’t be the person he is today.

I know that if Tim did not have mosaic Down syndrome, I would not be the person I am today. I would not be as strong as I am. I would not have the knowledge that I do. I would not have the wonderful extended family that I have. And, International Mosaic Down Syndrome Association would not exist the way that it does. Families would still be left out in the cold wondering what this means for their children.

Tomorrow is my baby’s 23rd birthday. For this special day, I have a very important announcement that you may not want to miss.  

In March, I wrote an article reminding us all of What Matters The Most. This was a celebration of the little things in life. Those small miracles that we often overlook in the busyness of our day. That was March 23, 2009. On this day, our little Gideon had taken his first steps! We were all so overjoyed with his accomplishment and his infectious laughter. Gideon is a strong willed little guy who happens to have mosaic Down syndrome.

This special event was just seven weeks ago.

Gideon was born with some heart problems that many children with Down syndrome and mosaic Down syndrome are often born with. In most cases, children are able to have a surgery to repair their heart and bounce back pretty quickly. I have heard countless parents recall the anxiety of the day their child had this surgery, only to say later that the hardest thing was to keep them still afterward and try to make them rest. 

Unfortunately, this is not the case for young Gideon. In the past two weeks, Gideon has had 3 heart surgeries and is now on a pacemaker and still being monitored very closely. Gideon is a strong little guy and like his name, he is a “Powerful Warrior”. 

But even warriors need soldiers to stand beside them to win fierce battles. Today, Gideon, and his mom Marriah, need some soldiers to stand beside them to win this battle. They need lots of prayers and as many Angels as you can spare.

The video above was just seven weeks ago of our sweet little warrior taking his first steps. 

The video below is Gideon now. 

Gideon will be celebrating his second birthday tomorrow!

Happy Birthday Gideon! 

Get Better Soon!

For the majority of my life-time, I have been a mother. Like many, I have endured the joys and the heartaches that go along with the title. I have kissed scraped knees, taped and glued broken toys, and done my best to mend broken hearts.

With a vengeance that I never knew was within me, I have fought battles for my children to ensure their best interests. When something was not right for them, my “Mother Bear” instincts kicked in and I did my best to right the wrong.

As a mother, I have learned many valuable lessons from my children. I have learned that love is unconditional, that laughter is wonderful and contagious, and that letting go is hard, but necessary.

I have learned how to read between the lines and how to know when something is terribly wrong when they say everything is “fine”. I have learned that my children are not always as “innocent” as they would like me to believe. I have learned that respect is not something you demand, but something you share.

As a mom, I have cleaned up the most disgusting messes known to man. I have held out my hands to catch contents abruptly coming from the mouth. I have used my shirt to ensure a clean nose. I have held bones together on one-while treating for shock on the other-and caring for a newborn baby-all at the same time. 

I have sat up late at night asking God for help when I knew only He could fix it.

I am not a perfect mother. I have made mistakes more times that I would like to think about.  But I remind myself that I am a “Mom-in-Training”. Because no matter how many years you are a mom, every day is a new day and with each new day a new set of challenges arise.

There will always be scraped knees, runny noses and broken hearts.  There will be late night-last minute science projects. There will be arguments between siblings, friends and yourselves. There will be friendships and relationships lost. There will be countless meetings with the school trying to right whatever is wrong. There will even be late night trips to the emergency room.

But the Joys of Motherhood, far outweigh the struggles.

There is laughter within your house and in your heart.  There is love that you never knew could exist. There is a special bond that only a mother can know. There is a sense of accomplishment for every milestone that takes place-be it the first steps your child takes, or the steps across the stage to receive their diploma. There is this an indescribable feeling of pure joy each time you hear your child say “Mom”

Motherhood isn’t for Sissies. 

It is the toughest job, but the most rewarding job you will ever know.

Happy Mother’s Day!

So, it is 12:30 at night and I was finally wrapping up my day. It has been a busy week! I decided to have a look over at my blog before I called it a night and all of the sudden I decided to go ahead and publish the schedule since we just got it on our site today…. Not that I was having ANY PRESSURE or anything!

I am sorry it has taken this long! I know you all are anxious to see what will go on during the weekend. I am so excited about the conference! This is going to be incredible for all families and individuals with Down syndrome and mosaic Down syndrome AND it is going to be extremely beneficial for all the professionals who work among our circle.

Now, I don’t have the Kid Konference or the Youth Conference schedule finished, but hopefully in the next couple of weeks we will have that ready for everyone. But I do have the Main Conference schedule. This does not include the DSA Board Meeting and who will be at the Research Appointments on Friday. But it does include everything else!

You can click here for the schedule. You need a PDF reader (like Adobe or something) to read this. If you don’t have that, email me and I will send you a document.

I know that it has been a while since I have posted a blog and I apologize to my devoted readers for my lack of writing. I have been incredibly busy with the planning of our Down syndrome Research & Awareness Conference and just have not had the time to write any more. Today, I announced our schedule for the main conference and we should have that on our site in a few days. Within a few weeks we should have our Kid Konference and Youth Conference schedules ready to go and I will publish them then.

If you have not yet registered for the conference in Cincinnati, time is running out!

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I have not posted in a while only because I have been swamped with conference planning! If you have not yet reserved your spot for the conference time is running out!

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One workshop that we will be having at this conference is a Round Table discussion on Adult Transition and the things that need to be changed with this system in America. When an adult with Down syndrome finishes high school, there should be a transition team in place that will help the adult and their family to make decisions on what to do next. However, that system basically sucks. And, another problem many families are having is the emotional impact of “What do I do now?” Families have trouble letting their child grow up because they have been so focused on their well being for the past 20+ years and all the sudden all the support they once had is basically gone.

It is time for a change. Just like back in the 70’s when families stood up and demanded that their children be allowed in public schools, families now need to stand up and pioneer this new step to a better future.

If you are interested in being part of this committee, would like to participate in the Round Table discussion in Cincinnati, or just have questions, you can send me an email at Kristy@imdsa.org and I will be happy to talk with you.